February often brings to mind roses, Valentine’s cards, and maybe a little extra chocolate — all familiar symbols of romantic love. That got me thinking about the word love itself.

Love isn’t just a feeling of attachment. It’s also a verb — even a way of being — with the power to shape how we relate to ourselves, our community, and the world around us. The late Richard Hawkins, MD, described love as “a way of being that takes no position and sees the intrinsic lovability and value of all that exists.” In other words, love invites us to surrender our human urge to control outcomes and instead approach life with openness, curiosity, and compassion.

As a therapist, this perspective has become one of the most powerful tools for healing I’ve encountered. As cliché as it may sound, love truly is the answer to so much. It is the quickest antidote to fear and anxiety. The next time you find yourself facing a difficult decision, I invite you to ask a simple question: Is this choice rooted in love or fear?

Fear tends to see danger everywhere, fueling anxiety, avoidance, and a constant search for security. Love, by contrast, is forgiving, nurturing, and supportive. It arises from the heart rather than the intellect. When love is present, it softens the sharp edges of fear, creating space for clarity and discernment. I often remind myself that fear is welcome to come along for the ride — it just can’t be the driver.

If this resonates with you and you’re curious to explore how love and fear show up in your own life, relationships, or emotional wellbeing, I would love to connect. You can learn more about therapy, coaching, and community offerings at Jane Ballard Wellness by visiting my website or following @janewballard on Instagram.